Love....When or how do you know it's real?

Love....makes me speechless....makes me wonder...makes me happy...makes me sad.

More on love...after the break.

Lay your own Foundation

This is more for the ladies. Lay your own Foundation.

My grandmother was a homeowner at the age of 17. Her home telephone is still the same from the time she purchased that home until now. I lived with my grandmother until I went to college at 17 years old. Never did I have to see my grandmother depend on a man for anything. Growing up, my grandmother taught me well. She was the best teacher I had. Sometimes I didn't always listen but it all makes sense now. She always told me, "Makeva, lay your own foundation." She taught me to always be able to hold my own whether a man was in the picture or not. She always said own your own home or have your apartment in your name and in the event you decided to get married or your boyfriend moved in with you, make sure your foundation was laid; therefore, he could never put you out and if he decided to walk out on you, you had your own bank account with your own money, you had your own job and you didn't have to depend on him and things would still be "normal" in your house when the man was gone.

Though my grandmoter wasn't all that spiritual, we went to church occasionally and I've learned to always keep my faith in God. Man will always let you down. God is always with us even when we feel that we're all alone. God will never let us down. I'm a living witness that God is a provider and always hears my prayers. Trust in God, believe that he will  always answer your prayers and he will always be with you. I know it's easier said than done but trust him, he will never let you down. We all deal with things that really hurt us, make us cry, and make us wonder why. Remember, God has a plan for you and I. He will work all things out that you're going through but you have to pray to him. He will turn all bad things into good. He wants to have a relationship with you, he loves you. He's waiting to hear from you.

TRUST and whatever else

I hope you're not in a rush because this is going to be a long one. If you are, please visit my site when you really have time to sit, read and think. I want to hear from you so please leave your comments after you read. Ya'll knew I would eventually touch on this. I have to take a few steps back in order for you to understand what's going on now.

In 2006, I started dating this guy that I was "with" for about three years. At the third year, we continued to talk but it wasn't like it was prior to that. I was sooo in love with him. No one could've ever told me he wasn't going to be my husband. Someone should've continued to tell me that he wasn't going to be my husband because he always put so many other women before me. And I mean really, what would you expect a man to do when you allow him to do all those things to you. Note to Women: Men will do unto you whatever you allow them to do so know your worth and don't settle for anything less than you deserve. I finally cut all ties with him a few days ago. Okay, so we never made it official that we were a couple and I loved him so much. I knew he loved me too but his love came a few years after mine. I have never been jealous of anyone. Why?